Should i just do it?
I'm 16, gay, and "in the closet". My parents, brothers, and best friend know. Everyone already assumes. Other friends always ask, other people crack gay jokes, even at a campfire, make a skit "guess the person" and have a person standing there, with the gay voice and hand gesture as me.I was stayting in the closet until after my camping trip, and now that its over, i want to just come out. I am nervous that my best friends will not want to hang around with me, in fear of others assuming they're gay too. also, i want to take a trip with school to italy in the spring, and finding a roomate could be difficult if i were out.......What do you think i should do?
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 15 Answers
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1 :
When you are ready to come out, go for it. Simple as that. Those that are willing to support your decisions, those are the ones that care about you.
2 :
Listen to your heart. xD
3 :
Wait till you come back from your trip to Italy and Mamma mia! you'll love those Italian boys, and then you won't give a fecal matter who thinks what, but yes, some people will drift away from you....their loss!
4 :
Enjoy the trip and keep your eyes open. The future always takes care of itself
5 :
Considering that people assume your gay then I'm sure your friends have noticed your behavior as well.So they might already suspect that your gay.I say just go for it since your family knows although I'm not sure why you haven't told them yet since sometimes telling everyone around you is part of the coming out process since you are supposed to be comfortable enough to tell everyone.I say you have nothing else to lose and to just tell them.And the guy who was acting like you sounds like a total douche ignore him.
6 :
Just do it...., if your friends are your real friend.. they wont let you go... because they love you... the person....
7 :
none of that will stop and you will just have to grow a thick skin. once you come out you will be defining yourself by your sexuality. just tell who you feel you should tell as a part of being honest. like family and really close friends. . no one else really needs or wants to know. some people prefer to be in the dark about ather peoplses sexuality. if someone really wants to know you can decideto share it but if they dont ask then dont volunteer it. the only exception is in the case of harassment in which case you say yes i am and if there is any problem with that then its your problem
8 :
If everyone just already assumes, then do it. If those friends are really your friends they'll be okay with it.
9 :
Come out on your own schedule. I didn't come out to my parents or close friends until I was 25. How do those who already know feel? If they are supportive that will make it much easier when you finally do decide to come out. I would guess not much will change when you decide to tell the others. After all, they already seem to know and accept it. Good luck!
10 :
try to find a nice girl and forget being gay.
11 :
It seems to me, that the people who matter the most to you know already, so being in the closet is irrelevant. those other best friends you mention, if they don't already know, then they can't really be your best friends, if others already know. Plus even when they do find out, if they are truly ones you can call best friends, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If they have a problem with it, there are planty of people in the world who will accept you with open arms for who you really are. Just be yourself. It's not like you see a bunch of people worring about coming out to the world as being straight, I know it's not the same, and it never will be, but my point is, you can't always worry about what others will think. Being yourself will set you free from this and place you in a category that only you can fit in becasue you are you and no tow people are alike regardless of sexual orientation or skin color or fluent language. I hope this helps. Good luck in whatever you choose to do for yourself.
12 :
Duh, keep your mouth shut...your orientation is your business not the school gossips...if people know, so what, they know...let it go at that...
13 :
you should just do it dont go around like im gay im gay just if anyone asks say yeah so what or something like that My bestfriend was a guy and he was fine with it he just said we wouldnt be having any sleepovers hahaha but he was pretty cool with it
14 :
I think your crack joking friends are very insensitive. Maybe you should imitate them in an exagerated way? No, I wouldn't come out to those worthless, without a clue on how it feels to be you, slobs just yet. Go to Italy--have fun!! Make new friends! Be nice to them but go out on your own sometime.
15 :
wait until your comfortable with your friends, and ready. if your worried now, don't press the issue. come when your ready. if your not now, than don't. 16 is young. maybe wait until your out of high school, that way if you won't be teased by bigots. people who don't support you, weren't your friends to begin with. being gay, is nothing. your sexualtly shouldn't be the biggest part of your life. for example, a male walks by(straight) kissing girl. no one stares. a male walks by kissing a another male. everyone stares. thats the differenence. lots of people are BIGOTS. people shouldn't be so concered about what you do behind closed doors. my opnion
